Love Yourself First…What This Means
I had a topic idea all ready to go for this week, but then a t.v. news commercial caught my eye, so this one jumps to the top of the list.
The commercial was about a woman around my age getting caught up in an elaborate romance scam, she lost
millions of dollars and at this time is sitting in jail in a foreign country.
I quite literally had a chair spinning in front of the computer moment! A holy hell moment for sure, and not in a good way!
How Can This Happen
How can this happen??
While I do these articles, if I only reach one woman that learns anything from me as an old broad, I hope it is this lesson. Love Yourself First! But what does that mean?….
Romance scammers look for the vulnerable whatever their age. Young naïve women with little to no life experience or older women like myself that may be lonely and lost, perhaps after divorce or loss of a husband.
What do they have in common?? Quite simply put, they don’t know their worth. They go online looking for love, a connection with someone else. When in reality they should be looking for ways to connect with themselves. They need to say a hundred times a day if need be…”I am worthy, I am enough on my own, I deserve to be treated with respect.”
Now…if someone comes along, in person, (none of this never meeting in person nonsense), then fine. As long as you are being treated well, all is good with online dating. It’s actually how I met the great guy I am with now. I value myself enough and have told him, if he changed and started treating me with less respect, I would kick his butt to the curb! And he knows I mean it!
Some women just have trouble being comfortable with their own company. They are so afraid to be alone, that they put up with being treated badly instead.
As I sit here writing, I really can’t remember a point in my life that sticks out that I was ever told I was worthy. But I remember always seeing women in my family being treated with respect. So I guess that is how it transferred to me. Actions speak volumes!!
So young Mothers out there, teach your daughters to not put up with being disrespected. They are always watching you so lead by example.
And teach your sons to be respectful of girls which will transfer to women in the future.
Value Yourself
Back to that woman and the romance scam…
If she had valued herself it’s likely this never would have happened. It’s one thing to like the attention and compliments she received from this guy, but to give a stranger money, just to keep him around? No, this behavior is disrespectful and she should have said get lost at the point of him asking for money.
For the women young and old that find themselves in situations like this…learn to look yourself in the eye in the mirror and repeat to yourself…
“I deserve to be treated with respect”
“I deserve better”
“I am worthy of respect, and I will not settle for less”
Learn from stories like this woman in the news, so you don’t end up like her. Once you get it through your head you are worthy of respect, and it may take time, but one day it will just click.
“I will no longer put up with being disrespected!” You will hold your head higher and feel lighter and fabulous! You can take on the world!
Learn to enjoy your time getting to love yourself. Read more, exercise and eat healthier, spend time with friends and family. Learn a new hobby. Write out your feeling in a journal to keep track of your new
“I Love Me” life. Write down your goals and accomplishments to show how far you have come.
Join a group to meet people…in person! Your life is yours to live, don’t let anyone take that away from you!
And always remember…You Are Worthy!
You must be happy with yourself and have self respect before you go looking for love. Once you learn this, and someone disrespects you, you will be able to say to yourself…”Nope, this isn’t for me” and you will be able to disengage and walk away. No ifs…ands…or buts!
Self respect is a wonderful thing and you can learn to have it to!
Is it a simplistic solution? In some ways yes, but not everything has to be rocket science.
Life Experience Wisdom
*If you meet someone online, and they ask for money, or won’t meet you at a location of your choice (preferably a public coffee shop for example) then tell them to hit the road! Block them if you have to.
GOOD PEOPLE DON’T ASK STRANGERS FOR MONEY!
*Tell yourself daily…I am worthy of respect, I am valued, I am enough.
*I can fly on my own wings
*I will learn to Love Myself First!
Thanks for visiting, cheers til next time!
Grace
My Motto
When life throws baseball size lemons at you, that smack you upside the head, stomp on those damn things and make yourself a cocktail!