Keep Fishing – A Lesson in Relationships
A few weeks ago I mentioned I would revisit a topic I’ve touched on before. I feel it’s worth another look if it keeps just one woman from falling down this particular rabbit hole.
My Life Lesson this week…
Never Put Up With Being Treated Badly
Now that sounds like a no brainer, not rocket science moment, but it can happen slowly over time, you may not even realize it is happening.
I’ll never forget the moment when I stopped and thought…I’m putting up with things just to keep the peace. Oh my gawd…I have turned into what I used to warn other young women about, how did that happen?
I’ll tell you how…you put up with little things over and over. You explain them away, until the little things become big things.
Hopefully you still have your wits about you, that you can say…Wait, what am I allowing to happen to me? This isn’t me.
So the me I was used to seeing finally said…Enough is enough.
I want women to think of relationships like fishing expeditions.
You paddle around in your boat, looking, casting, waiting for the right fish to come along.
If you haul in what looks like a keeper, and it’s actually a shark…throw it back!
Treat relationships like a catch and release program. If you start getting treated badly, first try and find out why, and if fixing things doesn’t work…
Toss that sucker back and move on!
The phrase…There are lots of fish in the sea is truth my friend!
Anyone that tells you there is only one “soul mate” out there for you, can blow it out their end! It’s just not true!
Keep searching for what you want and deserve.
And in the process you may discover you are good on your own!
Here are a few situations that are not acceptable and ones that are acceptable
Say No to a partner that does this…
Tells you what to wear and not to wear.
Tells you where you can go and not go.
You have no say in plans made.
Being told you can have something, then have it taken away.
(If any of these happen, it’s your cue to release your catch and fish somewhere else.)
Say Yes to a partner that does this…
Thinks you look great whatever you are wearing.
(Even if you come out of the bathroom wearing one of his t-shirts and the back of it is stuck in your underwear.) If he smiles and says I love you…that’s a keeper.
You let him know you are making plans to go out with a girlfriend and he says….Have fun, I love you…that’s a keeper.
He actual discusses plans with you to do something for holiday time…that’s a keeper.
He gives you things and takes you out for dinner just to show his appreciation for all you do. And he also knows being in the kitchen isn’t your thing, but you do it anyway cause you have to eat…that’s a keeper.
These are all actual situations from my life.
I finally came to my senses and threw that nasty one back to the sea.
No one should put up with the controlling non acceptable situations listed here.
I hope this makes you stop and think about your own relationship if things are sounding familiar.
You have to value yourself enough to say…I deserve better and want a healthier relationship.
Never be afraid to catch and release the nasty fish in your life!
Life Experience Wisdom
* Value yourself.
* If a relationship isn’t a happy healthy one, think about what you want out of life, end the relationship if it no longer works.
* Keep fishing until you find what you want or enjoy your time on your own!
That’s it for this week, thanks for visiting, cheers til next time.
Grace
My Motto
When life throws baseball size lemons at you, that smack you upside the head, stomp on those damn things and make yourself a cocktail!