Talk Yourself Up!
I have a question for you this week.
(I’m going to make you think about how you treat yourself.)
What was the last thing you told yourself?
Now I don’t mean the last thing you said to yourself, (to me there is a difference) like…Ok I’ll just read one more chapter. Or I’ll just have one more piece of cake, no sense letting it go stale…it looks lonely by itself.
I mean the last thing you told yourself…about yourself.
Was it a positive or negative thought?
If you do something well, do you take the time to pat yourself on the back?
If you don’t…I bet when you make a mistake, you are the first to kick yourself and tell yourself something negative.
Take a minute and think about those last two sentences.
Which lead to this question…
If you can take the time to tell yourself something negative when things don’t go as planned, why not say something positive when you do something amazing?
Now for some of us older ones, we were brought up with “don’t honk your own horn.” “don’t brag.”
So the thought of thinking positive thoughts about ourselves is tough. We have to retrain the brain so to speak.
Self talk is that inner voice you hear in your head, and it can be a big influence on how you feel about yourself.
But that inner voice is a two sided little being.
One side is all rainbows and fluffy kittens, and the other side is a three headed drooling monster from hell out to get you.
The positive one will make you feel like you are walking on air all the time, and the negative one will make you feel like hiding under the bed for a week.
With those two choices…which would you rather listen to and live with?
You need to tell the drooling monster one to go back to hell where it belongs.
Practice telling yourself positive thoughts, learn to catch the negatives ones and replace with a positive one as soon as you realize what you have done.
For example…
The other day I dropped the coffee filter basket on the floor, and yes it was full of coffee. Instead of saying, “Good gawd that was a stupid thing to do, what the hell is wrong with you!”
(I laughed, took a picture and sent it to my dude. LOL)
The rainbow, fluffy kitten inner voice come through first and I thought…”At least the coffee was wet and in clumps, and easier to clean up than dry coffee spread out over the entire kitchen floor.”
Ok…the inner voice was a bit weak this time, but at least it was positive.
Once I started practicing positive thinking about myself, the negative one has receded and seems to be held at bay by the rainbows and kittens. (I picture the kittens wearing armor, holding spears guarding the rainbow saying…No negative thoughts shall pass!) Tough little fluffers!
Positive self talk is important for good mental health. It will boost your self confidence.
It will just make you feel better all round, it will do wonders for your self esteem, and who doesn’t want to feel better about themselves.
When you feel good about yourself you feel more in control and more capable of succeeding with what you set out to accomplish.
So give it a try and talk yourself up…not down!
Life Experience Wisdom
* Listen to your inner voice, is it positive or negative.
* Change your negative thoughts into positive ones.
* Strive to hear the rainbows and kittens, not the drooling monsters.
Thanks for stopping by, cheers til next week!
Grace
My Motto
When life throws baseball size lemons at you, that smack you upside the head, stomp on those damn things and make yourself a cocktail!