Catfishing Victim – No?!
Stories of victims of catfishing surface every so often, and after reading about one the other night as I scrolled through the news, I thought I’d do a reminder article for this week.
By definition someone that is catfishing is “A bottom feeding soulless scumbag that preys on lonely women on the internet.”
Ok that’s my definition, but you get my point. The women are mostly middle aged or older vulnerable souls that are lonely and desperate for attention.
These scumbags will swear on their dead mother’s grave that they are telling the truth, all to make a buck.
They have no morals and prey on those that do.
They usually start by friending an older woman on social media, he may be 50ish and she may be 80ish.
He will tell her she is beautiful, a wonderful woman and would like to get to know her. (RED FLAG)
The lonely trusting woman is thrilled to receive the attention from a good looking man and dives in head first.
At some point they agree to meet, but suddenly the scumbag is having passport issues or other problems relating to travel, because this man is never in the same country, and asks the victim for money to resolve the issue. (RED FLAG)
Always with the reassurance of being paid back. (RED FLAG)
They never actually meet.
Oh and he’s rich most of the time, I almost forgot that part. You know cause when you are rich ALL your money is tied up in investments. (sarcasm)
So sadly after being told all kinds of wonderful things about what their lives will be like once they are together, the victim sends the money.
This will go on and on. Asking for money for one made up story after another until the victim is broke.
Now this is where I want you to wake up and give your head a shake.
Let’s address the red flags.
I’m sorry girlies and it may sound harsh but 50ish good looking rich men aren’t romantically interested in 80ish women. The men posing as your suitor are interested in your bank accounts.
(They use photos of good looking men as bait)
Telling you they are rich but can’t access their money. What?! That just doesn’t make sense. No one that is rich has ALL their money tied up in investments! You will never get your money back, they are scamming scumbags.
Asking for money from someone you just meet makes no sense either. If the scumbag was real, and needed money, he should be asking his accountants…not you!
And why would you want to be with someone that was always asking you for money?
And just to be clear these scumbags sit at computers all day, by the room full, looking for victims. They are not really interested in you. And if an ounce of interest is shown, they pounce like a fish on a worm, hence the term catfishing. They are fishing for vulnerable lonely trusting women. Don’t be that woman, be skeptical and think it through.
The best thing to do if you find yourself in a catfishing scheme is to disengage. End it. Unfriend and block this person. Tell family about it and ask for help to block if you need to.
You owe the scumbag no explanation, so don’t bother telling them why. They will do their best to change your mind. They are scumbags. They lie for a living.
You need to remember you deserve better.
Get off your computer and get out to meet real people if you are lonely.
Spend time with family and friends. Join a hobby group of real people.
Anything other than meeting strangers online that ask for money.
The 80 yr. old woman in the article I was reading lost everything, she’s broke.
She told her story as a warning to others and I’m passing it on to hopefully save someone else from the same fate.
Life Experience Wisdom
Warning Signs
* Someone you have never met asks for money after meeting you online. (If someone really cared about you they wouldn’t ask for money)
*They make excuses why they can never meet in person.
*They are rich, but can’t access their money.
And I’ll leave you with this question…
Why would you want to be with someone that was always taking from you?
Remember you deserve better than that.
That’s it for this week, stay safe online girlies!
Get out and enjoy your day.
Cheers til next week,
Grace
My Motto
When life throws baseball size lemons at you, that smack you upside the head, stomp on those damn things and make yourself a cocktail!